Yes, let us not forget that Jackson refused to give one of his Lieutenants leave to visit one of his dying children, then refused when the second one got sick and was dying, and then did the same when the man's wife was dying. But, Jackson brought his wife ("my Esposita") to winter with him. A great General, but a despicable man. Lee deserves great honors for both his personal traights, and his superb military leadership.
What were the specific circumstances surrounding those alleged incidents? Besides, are things like that so uncommon during times of war? Were not U.S. troops denied leave from Iraq so that they could help their families after Hurricane Katrina?
Among other things, Jackson was well-known for his ministry to the black population. Before the war, for example, he ran a Sunday school for black children--slave and free--and taught them how to read. Considering that this was the Antebellum South, was this the behavior of a "despicable man"?