Yeah, well what would the dear man have to say if I had popped out 2 or 3 kids in the middle of my husbands 10-year drug abuse crisis? Then I would've been a selfish dumba$$.
I wish people would just shut up about it already. It's hard enough having been in a situation where having children was profoundly NOT the right choice, much less getting continually judged by jackasses like this guy and some of the people on this board.
LQ
When you are 75 years old, sitting and looking out into the backyard with no grandkids to watch play, make cookies for or spoil...
then you might just regret not having children...
>> Yeah, well what would the dear man have to say if I had popped out 2 or 3 kids in the middle of my husbands 10-year drug abuse crisis? Then I would've been a selfish dumba$$. <<
Well, that's the true reason for the existence of annulments. If your husband was a drug addict, he was incapable of a spiritual marriage. Hence, you would be permitted to leave him. What's the alternative? Have sex with a drug addict and risk an unplanned pregnancy?
He'd say you didn't have enough. After all, the natural spacing between babies is about 18 months. In 10 years, you should have had 6, and been 6 months pregnant with #7. Then God would have blessed your family just like he blessed Nixzmary Brown's family, where mommy just kept popping them out one after another -- to the point where she was busy nursing her 6 month old, while her husband was murdering her 7 year old in the next room, and the 4 other children were just doing whatever little kids do when mommy's too busy with the new baby to stop daddy from murdering your sister.
None of the more self-righteous among them ever considers the possibility that people do things for what are very good reasons (lives are complicated).
As for me, I never wanted children because (among other reasons), I knew that based on my family's health history, that I likely would not have a long life. Therefore, I arranged my life so that I could enjoy some retirement years. The only way that I could have done that was foregoing children (which never appealed to me in the first place) and their concomitant costs (college tuition, for instance).
So, I did things according to plan and retired early (and it's been nice, thank you very much).
If some think that I should have fallen into lockstep with what they think is the "correct life" and had children, thereby risking working until the day that I died, well, I'll put it politely: folks, we just don't agree.
I, for one, applaud your courage.