Judith Anne,
Prayers for you and your family! At the risk of sounding trite, it's always darkest before the dawn. You will look back on this as something very difficult that you made it through, and you will be stronger for it. Each one of these awful experiences gives us a different perspective on life and helps weed out the insignificant things that can overtake us if we aren't careful. This move will indeed be stressful and push your endurance to it's end, but you'll come out on the other side of it even better than before.
I used to have a condition which flared similar to RA, and I know what you're going through, it's adding greatly to the stress level, which makes it flare even worse, a revolving door. Take care of yourself first, then the business end of things.
Thanks, thanks, and more thanks to everyone...I'm heading off to sleep now, I had my laughs and my good cry, and now I can rest.
Tomorrow is another day. One day at a time, we'll get through this.
Just...thanks. FReepers are wonderful epople (my favorite typo from FR, it always makes me laugh).