I suppose the point is that there aren't enough kids to go around and so they should go to people who can't have them. I'm not sure there aren't enough kids, altho there is a dearth (so I've heard) of adoptable white infants. My brother went thru the foster care system and adopted a little boy who was about 2 1/2. Great kid, btw. If he had been stuck on an infant, I'm not sure he would have one yet. Oh, and yes, he's married, I realize I made that sound like he was single. susie There are plenty of kids to go around and plenty of people who want to adopt (at least here). At least 3 of my aunts and uncles have adopted children along with several of my neighbors. Black children have been adopted a lot here. I don't care if the kid is black, white, Asian, or whatever, a good family can do wonders. I realize, being one who really wants a child, that maybe I should be one of those saying that those of us without them maybe should get them first, but to me that sounds somewhat selfish. It's the CHILD and providing him/her with a good home whom we should be concerned about.
Like your son, I will love that child like no other when I am finally able to get the opportunity to raise one. Then there will be no more questions of, "Why don't you want children?" or "So you decided you don't want any children?"
I wasn't saying that was my position, btw, I was just saying where I thought that sort of comment was coming from. I think adoption is great, and I really admire people who adopt an older child, or a child with some sort of handicap etc.
susie