I believe that for all the way they're spoken of in the US as being oppressive overlords, Japanese men have considerably LESS authority under their home roofs than American men do.
That means that Japanese men ride trains to workplaces where they have to bow and scrape and get shi**ed on alll day, and then they ride back home, where they get shi**ed on all over again by their wives. AND, then when they get alone with their MOTHER, she proceeds to sh* on him for allowing himself to permit himself to be shi**ed on by his wife.
So basically it's 24 hours of getting shi**ed on. So you smoke and drink to escape, and then maybe you go to soapland a bit to get some relief.
I've seen that kind of thing before. I've also seen marriages where it's the father-in-law with money who treats the husband like total crap for not making his first million yet. What a BS situation that is. Husband and wife should be stepping up to daddy and saying, "If you don't like our house or our stuff and can't shut up about it, you don't need to be coming over here anymore."