I don't know about that... I think the question "Can I help / watch / try some" might actually be ruder!
Mark
Are you kidding? I'd want fair warning so I can keep may back to her when she whips out the breast for her little one's snack. What a demented society we live in that finds public breast feeding in restaurants and elsewhere appropriate.
I don't know. "How's the episiotome?" usually get's a rise out of the new mom! ;-P
Seriously, the author of the letter appears to be searching for a reason - probably ANY reason - to be upset. While those around her may be insensitive to her feelings, I don't believe that any offense is intended, on the whole.
If she stopped worrying about the question and started using some snappy answers to disengage from the conversation, I'm sure that most of her coworkers would stop asking.
In the end, I live by the rule that a negative reaction to a particular topic of conversation removes that topic from the list of possible subjects for later talks.