I only take offense if something is meant to be offensive. People could ask me how many kids I have. They don't know if I have had kids to pass away. If they don't mean offense then I don't get offended. I have had people ask me if I'm going to have any more. At one time I thought that might not be possible. I didn't get offended at the question.
Exactly. People ask me about my mom---she is deceased. The questions are a painful reminder of my loss, but not offensive.
There is a difference..
You are right. When I am asked by strangers how many children do we have, I wonder how I should answer. Should I say 2 but one is in heaven or just one? It is a question asked to many people who have lost children. People get offended too easily.