I'm really trying to treat everyone with tact. I may have moments, but I like to think I've been very fair.
Objectivity is always filtered through one's ego. And with the sharp elbows being thrown on these type of threads, some egos get bruised. Others were bruised (and have not yet healed) prior to their joining the discussion.
I think that it's best just to let the fellas vent once in a while without taking umbrage or calling in the coven. After all, we have so few venues where it's allowable to get something off our chest.
Expressing and letting go of some toxic memories is a good way to put them behind oneself.
And just to satisfy my curiosity, why does it offend you that some men look offshore for a spouse?