I realize that, FRiend, and I didn't think you were.
People with a reasonable ability to form coherent thought should always examine the reasons (and their motives) for "feeling" the way they do. For the same reason that I have discovered that "secular jews" are, as a rule, pushy/whiny liberals, I have also discovered that when I really get pi$$ed off about something, I am usually in the wrong. :)
Therefore, I've been forced to carefully examine my "feelings" about secular jews - I dislike them because they are liberal; not because of their Jewish heritage or their apparent lack of religious sentiment.
In the vein of "what percent of a population is needed to create a stereotype" I think that number would vary widely - depending upon the "loudness" of that percentage. For example, look at the homosexual community - how few of the "flaming" queers have managed to push their agenda on the rest of society - and the stereotype that activity has engendered.
This really grinds my gears. La dee dah HYPHENATED name. Either use your daddy's name or your husband's name, to use both is just affected BS. Does she shovel both names on the kids or will she let them choose which name they want when they turn 18?
I wouldn't want to be named Schejter. Change one letter and it means something nasty in German.