Unfortunately you cannot "assure" me of anything. I spent a Valentine's Day choosing a casket spray for my only child. So don't "assure" me what anyone's feelings are about losing a child on a day when the rest of the world is celebrating happiness.
Last night, I went to friends who are burying their son today. Yes, Christmas lights and wreathes, like the ones on the door of the funeral home, will now forever be associated with death for the family.
I did not mean to insult you with the word assure. I too chose a casket during a holiday season, in fact I chose 2 caskets in the space of 3 days. My father and my son died the same weekend of different causes, both sudden. Christmas had no meaning for me that year, it was just another day of grieving that I had to survive. Now Christmas is when I miss them the most. God Bless you.