[Billthedrill]

Bingo. If you're more focused on what you want and not what your prospective mate wants the relationship is probably not going to work out anyway. "Men are crap but I demand the perfect one" isn't a reasonable approach.

It is a comforting rationalization that men aren't attracted to "smart" women because they're intimidated. The illusion is twofold in Dowd's case - first, that she's intimidating, and second, that she's smart.

[LaineyDee]

If you're more focused on what you want and not what your prospective mate wants the relationship is probably not going to work out anyway.

Exactly. I hear complaints from many younger men that ladies 35yrs and under....are way too into themselves......leaving little room for anything else. Relationships have to be nurtured and require sacrifice. It's fast becoming a lost art.