[A2J]

think they send an awful message, but it is not a sinful decision, imo.

But the Bible says that "he who knows the right thing to do and doesn't do it, to him it is sin." (James 4:17)

How is "sending an awful message" not a sin?

Could it be that your own tradition has polluted your mind?

[xzins]

1Co 10:23 - All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.

This demonstrates that it's possible to have some things that are not sinful but also not be the best decision. These are the words of the Apostle Paul.