There's no such thing as a "rest home" and you might've been in some to know that for yourself. They're like cattle pens with the odor of urine stinging at your eyes when you just open the door. There's no dignity. Patients are left to rot away, marooned on wheel chairs, stewing in their own waste. It's a horrible sight, some of these facilities.
What you say in your post #51 is very often true, of way too many nursing homes...by the same token, its also very untrue of many nursing homes...
Whenever I have applied for a job in a nursing home, I insist on an impromptu visit around the nursing home, immediately after I fill out my application...I want to see how the nursing homes fares in my opinion of what the ideal nursing home situation should be...should they refuse to allow me a tour, or want to reschedule a tour, I suspect something is wrong...and I ask to take back my application...if the nursing home does not meet my own approval, I will refuse to work there...
And I ask a million questions of any prospective employer...you see, they may be sizing me up, but I am sizing them up even more...
I want the nursing home I work in, to be the sort of nursing home I would be comfortable living in myself, should I ever need such a place...
Not all nursing homes should be painted with the same broad brushstroke...they are all different, and anyone can contact their state about how well each nursing home fairs in the yearly inspections, and surveys, and all nursing homes should be available to impromptu tours by both prospective employees and prospective residents and their families as well...only in that way, can one be comfortable working in a particular nursing home, or putting a loved one or oneself in a nursing home...
Even the ones costing 5 grand a month were just lipstick
on the pig. They are "Escrows to Death"