[Hardastarboard]

Maybe I'm cold and stupid, but I don't want my children to be burdened by me if I get like this. I want them to put me in a nursing home and visit me regularly. I just wouldn't feel right impinging on their lives in that way.

[wardaddy]

You sound exactly like my mother.

course she would not allow my dad to die at home either...i fought her like hell over that but she had POA

some folks just see this differently and it doesn't mean one or the other is necessarily bad

it's about taking the time and responsibility either way

[Sleeping Beauty]

I agree that I prefer the idea of assisted living or nursing home care, having lived through this.

But, do you have the $60,000 plus saved away to pay for this? Do your kids? Or, will you rely on Medicaid/welfare/taxpayer money?

I think that's a fair question.

I have purchased VERY EXPENSIVE Long Term Care insurance, so that I am not a burden on taxpayers.

[goodnesswins]

"we who work in the nursing homes, are often closer to our residents than their own family is...we care for them, we love them as if they were our own family, we are the ones who hold their hands when they are scared and about to die"

THAT could be because the person you are caring for is MUCH closer to YOU, because they could/would NOT be close to their own....there is another side to situations like this. I know.