Posted on 11/25/2005 10:42:22 AM PST by Congressman Billybob
My aunt and her ex also managed to stay friends-best friends, actually- after they split amicably. There was no alcohol or violence or anything. I know at least two other women who stayed friends with their exes after the split. In one case, they just weren't ready for marriage, having tied the knot right out of high school.
True indeed. There's a reason why it's called a "job."
Best thing I ever did was turn down a "dream job" out of town in order to tend to family concerns at home. I would have never forgiven myself if I had left then.
That's what I was thinking. This sounds more like an business relationship than a marriage. Consequently, reason dictates that when circumstances change and something "better" comes along, then we dissolve the obsolete relationship -- no reason to try to work things out.
My question is this: If Billybob was willing to chuck everything and go with his wife, would that have made her happy or angry?
I know you have sustained some painful experiences in your life, and no doubt this will rank with the others. Being spurned by Kem (at least this is what it appears to be) for a prospective career on a remote island is baffling to all of us. But as you indicate, there is a lot more to the story than can be put in 700 words. While you have chosen to make some of it our business in the end most of it is not - nor should we assume it is. At least your parting seems amicable, which is thin gruel to the more painful issue of having a hole ripped into your life and ending the marriage of two talented individuals who seemed to so well complement each other in a marriage.
We both wish you and Kem the best but cannot pretend this is the outcome either of you envisioned when you married. All you both can do now is pick up the pieces and move on.
John
Cordially,
Congressman Billybob
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Post Script to Laz: I didn't think you HAD a sentimental side. I'm delighted to see it come out, my friend.
Very few people 'get' this. :)
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