"So a single or divorced mom brings her kids to church, and you'd rather the pastor hinder her from coming because she's not accompanied by a husband?
Remember the Samaritan woman, or the woman they brought to Jesus who was caught in adultery?
Maybe the message this pastor is teaching is the same one Jesus taught, "Neither do I condemn thee, go and sin no more.""
By diluting the message so as to "reach" the unsaved, you are doing a diservice to those in the pews who are saved and who need to be fed. Times are tough. Christians need to gear up for battle...cotton candy isn't going to cut it.
The entire megachurch mentality is based on the assumption that the church service is the place where evangelism occurs. That is simply wrong. Look at Scripture, indeed, look at the examples you give. Evangelism is to take place in the streets, at the wells, in stadiums, in office cubicles, etc....and most importantly, in the homes parent to child. The worship service is where believers come to be taught and fortified so that they can do the evangelistic work of the church - but that takes place outside those walls.
That model has nothing to do with condemnation. It has everything to do with recovering the historic and Biblical function of the church.
When Jesus told Peter to feed His sheep, Jesus meant for him to provide adequate food for all. Sunday sermons are not meant to be the mainstay for the devoted Christian doulos.
Yes, the message must be adequately diluted so that it can be assimilated by those who are not ready for the strong meat.
Megachurches aren't my calling, but there's nothing wrong with a church whose primary mission is to evangelize. Check out Mark 12:35, John 7:28 and other verses. Jesus both taught and evangelized in the temple. Paul preached the gospel in the synagogues but he also preached the gospel on the streets.
People are being brought to Christ through megachurches, and that's a good thing.