It's dreadful and sad
that a 14 year old girl
fell for this nut guy.
I wonder if she
was "just" an unbalanced girl
or if one or both
of her parents did
something traumatic to her
that messed up her mind.
My feeling is to doubt that her parents did anything to traumatize her. She was just a child who had a taste of the "wild-child" life and just couldn't resist its pull. My DH has two grown daughters from his first marriage (their mother died when the oldest was 18 and the younger 16)--that was 18 years ago. These two were so incredibly wild teenagers, especially the 18 year old. From the time she was 12-13, she was causing them terrible problems. She had a taste of the "wild-child" life and just couldn't resist it. She was boy-crazy, and she didn't seem to give one care to the potential disasterous consequences of her actions. Her mom and dad were beside themselves with grief, worry, despair over what she would put them through and how to handle her rebellion. It put a tremendous strain on their family life. Unfortunately, their mother died suddenly when they were 18 and 16, and from there on it was all down hill for both of them. They will always live with the guilt of knowing how miserable they made their mother's life and to have her die when they least expected it. I don't think they'll ever get over the guilt, even to this day. I know it wasn't because they were traumatized when they were young. They will even tell you so to this day.
What's so sad in this case, is that you have a rebellious, disobedient, defiant child towards her parents' authority and it has led to their DEATH. She cannot POSSIBLY have any clue right now of any deep understanding and knowledge as to the utter, total devastation that her willful disobedience and defiance of her parents authority has led to--has totally destroyed her family--imagine what this will always do to her siblings, knowing that because of her rebellion, it caused the death of their parents. Oh, but she will come to see the reality of what has happened here. In time, it will come crashing down on her, and when it does I don't see how she ever get over it.
Again, who is to say she is simply a victim? Do you know for a fact she didn't collude with this guy to have her parents murdered so she could do whatever she wanted?
Sadly, that scenario is not impossible... particularly from a teenage girl in heavy conflict with her parents.
did you see this?
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/1525842/posts
Kara was not the only one who fell for this nut case. He apparently used his "faith" to seduce another Christian girl in Hawaii (a relationship he had not fully wrapped up when he was with Kara). Then he apparently convinced the girl it was his fault they had "gone so far," that she was a "stumbling block" to his Christian walk, etc.
He ended up getting the girl to apologize to him for not being strong enough to resist his advances!