Watch the movie, "The Privileged Planet".
I think you'll all find it interesting.
So, the makers of that special were able to look at every planet, not just in our galaxy, but in the entire universe?
Any sort of life is a subject to favorable conditions...and favorable conditions are subject to, basically, odds.
So, if the conditions are "one in a million", count that up against the 100 thousand million stars in the Milky Way alone.
If you think it's one in a billion, count that against the millions and millions of other galaxies, each with billions of stars in it.