Simply amazing... I've heard of this "Dad" thing before, but I thought it was a myth. Now are you talking about your biological or your first or second step? Or is it the guy down the street that had a soft spot for you while you lived in that apartment with your mom and stayed home by yourself evenings while she was waitressing that one year? Or the guy who felt sorry for you when you were 7 and fed you Pringles and hotdogs in the hallway of your apartment because your mom was in the ER and couldn't take care of you? Or was it one of the "Uncles"? I'm really confused by that "dad" thing. Sounds wonderful.
Thanks to Boomer divorce rates, most of us Gen Xers didn't have a "dad". We had "That guy who sees us on the weekends and gives us things" or "the guy who's got the same last name as mom" or "the neighbor guy who felt sorry for us and taught us to ride our bike that one Saturday".
I would've liked to have had a dad to tell me to stop whining and to lead by example. As it is, we got our lessons on how to be a mate and a parent and a decent human being from books and TV. The vast majority of us have no friggin clue how to conduct this "life" thing and we're *still* doing better in adulthood than our parents who came from 2 parent, stable homes. (And you all wonder why we're a bit miffed when you, as a generation, tell us that we, as a generation, *owe* you?)
You know, your post #504, is really quite disgusting, and you seem like a bitter person...My parents are my biological parents, married in their early 20s, stayed married until the day my dad died, at which point they had been married for 45+ yrs, and in love with each other until the day they died...and I and my family, took care of them both at home, until they died...
And my husband and I have been married for 36+ yrs, and intend to stay married until we die..you see, we love each other...and we raised our boys, with the same love and attention we received from our parents...
Sorry that you are so very bitter, have wild nasty imaginings as to who my parents were, and what they did in life, and how they did their best to raise me and my brother..
You post, nasty as it is, reveals much about your state of bitterness, and frankly, I feel sorry for you, that you seem to get off, on ranting about something, and trying to denigrate people you know nothing about...you are truly disgusting...
Frankly, you are really gross, and out in left field, to insinuate that what advice I received from 'dad', might actually have been from the guy down the street, or some 'uncle' rather than from my own loving father....you soil his good name, with your insane rantings...
You are more than confused...you need to wash your mind out with soap...