[megatherium]

Of course I cannot deny that many if not most gay men behave in this manner. But not all gay men behave this way: many gay men are stay-at-home kind of people. Long-term relationships are not unusual and these are not always "open". The "queer activists" who talk about expanding the rules for sexual behavior and marriage do not speak for anyone but themselves (even if much of the gay crowd believes this); certainly they do not speak for certain friends and colleagues of mine. I may respectfully suggest that you yourself also do not have the right to speak of all gay people in these terms: characterizing gay men as incapable of lasting, true love and as being only interested in sex is an accurate description of many gay men (maybe most gay men) -- but not an accurate description of all gay men.

[AnAmericanMother]

FWIW, my mom's a professional dancer, so I have known homosexual men literally all my life.

The overwhelming majority are NOT in a "stable" relationship, and most of them are very unhappy. Maybe dance and the arts attract unhappy homosexuals, I don't know. The guys that my mom used to cite as an example of a "long-term relationship" parted company after 5 years . . . and it turned out that they had had a lot of issues all along.

I'm sure there are some long-term relationships somewhere, but I haven't seen them.

[tuesday afternoon]

maybe most gay men

If it's most homosexual men, then its a plurality. I've known lots of homosexual men and those that were in long term realtionships (measured in a handful of years) were not monogomaus. Check out little jeremiah's post again. Most homosexual men want to see the status quo change, not become part of it.

Marriage is too important an institution to turn it over to a crowd who thinks: Being queer means pushing the parameters of sex, sexuality, and family; and in the process, transforming the very fabric of society.