I agree with you, but for the final question that remains from all of your statements: Then what?
In the wake of the chaos that we sow, allow these nations to develop governments that violate the spirit of the Declaration of Independence? Dictatorships, theocracies, etc...?
Keep bombing them from the air, until they surrender by no choice of their own?
Simply put: boots on the ground conventional (politically correct) warfare will NEVER win.
Non-conventional warfare would win.
Re your "Then what?" ............ History taught us that after WW II, Japan and Germany not only were tamed, but developed democracies and became our friends. We won with non-conventional tactics, even though we used boots on the ground.
Unless we go to non-conventional warfare, we will never win fighting the way we are fighting now, because we are NOT "fighting" but using politically correct police actions.