You don't have to do it to them.
You can always let them do it to you.
They will be happy to oblidge you.
You write as if refuting pacifism (or passive-ism). This is not my position. I believe that a just and proportionate military defense is not only a right, but s duty.
As I said in a previous post:
As far as I know, the U.S. military has taken extraordinary measures to shield Iraqi civilians from the effects of war, and has not used indiscriminate bombing. If this is so, the civilian casualties in Baghdad were strictly accidental and may---arguably ---- be proportionate and justified.
By way of contrast, the bombing of cities on both sides during WWII (Coventry; London; Tokyo; Dresden; Hiroshima; etc.) was truly an indiscriminate mass slaughter of noncombatants, and was therefore, objectively, murder.
I oppose acts --- like the deliberate massacre of civilians --- which are against U.S. law, the UCMJ and military policy, repugnant to the conscience of every decent soldier as well as against objective Judeo-Christian standards on the conduct of war.