Ah, yes, the "Lifestyle Mommies." We must not judge them, for that would be judgemental.
In a little under two generations, we have gone from a child being born out of wedlock as an event that is nothing to crow about, and even something to be ashamed of(and the mother was always an object lesson of what not to do with your life to young people, especially young women)...to it being a "lifestyle choice."
We arrive at this sorry situation after abortion on demand, nonjudgementalism and inchoate defiance have formed a perfect confluence.
Since I have backed into this subject before on FR, and had to deal with serious hysterical incoming, let me make clear what I'm saying and what I'm not saying.
I am NOT saying that these children should have been aborted, for God's sake. I am also not saying that such children are "less worthy" than those born to married couples. I have been accused of both those, many times, simply for lamenting this situation.
I am saying: This is not the best situation, for a kid. It does not bode well for society. As for the new single mothers who are in "domestic living" situations...girls, don't you realize that not demanding that the guy make you "an honest woman" by marrying you and setting up a legitimate household (yeah, I'll use the word "legitimate," go ahead and sue me), you are literally leaving the door open for him to take a walk at some very inconvenient point for you? Then what will happen to the child born of your "lifestyle" choice.
Oh, there's another thing I've been hit with before: So many marriages end in divorce, you can understand why people don't bother getting married. Yeah, keep thinking like that, the socialist-secularist-society-destroyers just love it to death when the masses parrot their aims back to them. Oh, and they're the people who want to do so much "for the children"...unless it involves doing all you can for their emotional and physical stability.
Pop quiz: How do the majority of lifestyle moms vote? Especially, how do they vote five or six years down the road, when responsibilities and expenses start to overwhelm them?
Hey, I feel pretty good now. A blistering attack against the unhealthy society the liberals have transformed us into over the last 30 years always gives me relief...for about 20 minutes.
And women's lib made this all sound like such a great thing. They were very, very wrong and children are paying the price.
Well stated. I agree with your entire post.
I praise all who are hard working honest Americans. I also praise those who stick together as husband and wife and do their best to make things work out.
Well said. While single parents deserve our help through acts of kindness and charity as needed, it is not the best situation and we should never pretend that it is.
I have a co-worker who has two children from two different fathers, neither of which care to see their kids, nor pay a dime for them.
The girl is in her early 20's and is already on many forms of state assistance to help pay for her poor choices. Housing assistance, free medical, free dental, food stamps, free day care, the works.
She's obviously able to work, since she's working here, but she only wants to work part-time. See, if she works ful time then she makes too much money, and will lose much of her assistance.
We were talking earlier this week about medical insurance, and I was talking about how expensive mine is. $420 a month, plus a $500 deductible per person, per year. She starts bragging about her "plan", saying that she gets everything free and "it dont' cost me nothin' - it's great!"
I simply said, "you're welcome" and walked out of the room.
Welfare, single parenting, one-night hook-ups that result in kids were once shameful things that used to carry a stigma. No longer. Now they're proud of how well they're screwing the system to get everything for free.
Makes me sick, to be perfectly honest.
Please explain, WHY You (and your TV staff) did this?..in 1991..the glorification of B@st@rds / S!uts...Hmmm?
w/ apologies to twit, eurotwit
Another problem that people often ignore is how much danger the daughters are in from mom's revolving door boyfriends.
Would you rather they aborted them? Give them credit for giving birth and not murdering them in the womb.
I agree with most all of what you said.
However,there are many of us out here who understand that marriage is not for them.
Not because we are trying to promote some"liberal-socialist"agenda but because we have never met anyone who has even COME CLOSE to sharing our hopes,dreams and vision.
At least I never have.So why should I marry someone who I caanot in my own conscience feel comfortable with?
Happened again, didn't it? The problem is that the topic hits too close to home. The Sexual Revolution was not confined to lefties. Those who subscribe (consciously or uconsciously) to its tenets get very defensive when faced with the evidence against their behavior--especially the evidence that illegitimate kids have a much, much harder time in life than children who grow up with two married parents.