"No one has convinced me of anything"
Come on now, you have to take one side or another, or at least agree that both sides have valid points to debate.
Or are you here just for sympathy?
Pleeezzz! Go take your "sides" to the grade school playground. There is no room for mistakes. This is for keeps.
The points I have seen have been for the most part based on filling in the dots of the invisible woman from each persons underlining fears and have been more about fiction then fact with frivolous and dangerous assumptions being made all around.