One could argue, I guess, that those romance/softcore novels written for women by women ought to be criminalized as well. At least in some individual women, they might foster an over-active fantasy life and create unrealistic expectations with respect to sexual relations between real men and women.
If men should really read these books, can we assert that women should really view male-targeted porn to get a clue about what men want?
To a certain degree, yes, I think lots of women can look at porn and get an idea of what men like (no hassles or emotions, bj's and big boobs).
The biggest difference to me between men and women is that, a man will always get his orgasm.
Again, one of my reasons for (JOKINGLY) thinking that men and women need to live on different continents.