[weegee]

The fact is that their son is likely to meet other students who have same sex parents.

That is a physical impossibility.

Their child can meet a birthparent who has a live-in boyfriend or girlfriend of the same sex.

Can same sex couples both put their names on adoption forms?

[MineralMan]

"Can same sex couples both put their names on adoption forms?"

Yes, in some states.

[MineralMan]

Here's some info on states which have allowed gay or lesbian partners to adopt children where both halves of the couple are legally parents. This is most common with lesbian couples where one partner has given birth to the child, and the other adopting as a second parent.

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Second parent adoptions (by unmarried couples) have been granted by the courts (the approvals were generally from the lower level courts) in 21 States and the District of Columbia: Alabama, Alaska, California, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Nevada, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Texas, Vermont and Washington.

From:
http://naic.acf.hhs.gov/pubs/f_gay/f_gayc.cfm

[MineralMan]

"That is a physical impossibility."

Not for long, it seems. Research is ongoing on ways to fertilize a woman's egg with another woman's genetic material. Similar research is ongoing to create a "male egg," which would be fertilized with another male's sperm.

In the first case, one of the women would carry the baby. In the other, a surrogate would be required.

Please note that I am not in favor of such, but it does appear that things are about to change. Right now, they're working with mice, but....

More info at:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/1431489.stm

and

http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1589/is_2002_March_19/ai_83667580