[Rodney King]

maybe its just me, but it would seem that if a child has problems attaching themself to someone, wouldn't forcing them just push them further away? i know in training animals, if you just grab an animal and try to force it, it will try to either escape, hurt or kill you, or both. its a long process of earning its trust, and developing a bond. wouldn't it make more sense to treat this "attachment disorder" the same way?

Common sense on dealing with a kid who doesn't trust anyone would be to show, by example, that you are loving and can be trusted. Of course, nobody would pay for that advice.

[absolootezer0]

Common sense on dealing with a kid who doesn't trust anyone would be to show, by example, that you are loving and can be trusted. Of course, nobody would pay for that advice.

oh heck no! i could get rich off this if i had a degree in some sort of child psychology or counseling or something.
charge outrageous amounts of money to teach parents how to make their children believe that they are loving and can be trusted. teach them how to reward good behavior and that bad behavior needs to be punished, and explained why it is bad. teach them how to give kids small treats, and how to treat them like part of the family.