"Shrill as a harpie" indeed. I cannot tell you the number of married women I know who announce, "I do not cook for my husband. He is on his own." I just think if you are going to be a partnership, you divide the jobs and HAVE a homelife.
Call me old-fashioned, but ... if you don't bother with making a home and you don't bother with cooking and you don't bother with laundry and you don't bother with child-raising and you don't bother with time together and you focus on yourself and your career ... why are you married?
Just as important...why is he?