Yes, I should have clarified. In the preservation of marriage and family, it matters not whether the female "has her act together." Such a female is just as disposed to dispensing with life-long marriage as a female who does not "have her act together."
My point is that we men have always faced the choice to defer to the desires and demands of females, or to take control ourselves and set the terms for sexual and social interaction with the opposite sex. We created marriage and family to address precisely that interaction and to advance human civilization and protect the future.
In recent decades we gave up that control to females. In so doing, we got back all the free sex we could ever want, but we gave up marriage and family, gave up our civilization, and gave up the future.
DA740
Well, if your analysis begins and ends with 'having your act together' you are probably right. I didn't mean to suggest that was the only criteria, though. There are lots of other factors that goes into finding a compatible mate - I didn't mean to suggest there were none.
I think a lot of men are just fearful of relationships with women. Fearfulness isn't sexy. It won't make a woman feel secure with a man. In time, women in that dynamic will fall under the gravitational pull of a man who isn't fearful.
That man will then often gleefully have sex with other men's wives & girlfriends. while I'm no fan of adultery, can you blame a woman for recognizing she wants strength in a companion, and then recognizing the man she has been with for years is weak?
In good consience, I can't.