I do understand what you're saying, but I stand by my assertion: That's a small percentage of men (or I am blessed with knowing the kind of men that I do). I think any man--or woman, for that matter--that gives up ALL of their interests as soon as the vows have been uttered is dooming their marriage. That's not sacrifice--that's a breeding ground for failure. Poker night with the guys isn't a bad thing, as long as it is not every single night (and what kind of guy plays poker every night? Not the kind who is overly interested in marriage). I think our difference of opinion comes from what I see as giving something up--if you get something wonderful in return, and you don't miss what you no longer have, has it really been
sacrificed? Or has it, instead, evolved into something more meaningful?
I've got a 3-year old here who wants to go on a chestnut hunt, so I'm off for a spell. Enjoy this lovely autumn weather, everyone!