"It's heartwarming to wear this uniform and be able to give to the children, even when you know that some of their family members may not welcome you here," Padmore said. "But every one little heart that you touch may create a friendship or a love toward us that may affect the next generation. If the insurgency seeks to recruit these children someday, they may remember the touch and smile of a Marine, and the toys we gave them when they had nothing." Though these missions are meant to reach out to the children, it is often Padmore's crew who ends up being touched. He recalled one particular story of a family who forever changed his life. Several months ago, a mother and her two daughters, both of whom were burned and disfigured during the push through Fallujah, came to the operations center seeking financial compensation. The mother had described the family's father as crazy, and explained that her son and several of his cousins had been killed during last year's battle. "They came here for help, but day after day, they stood quietly off to the side, while the rest of the crowd was being loud and aggressive," Padmore related. "I was able to get them help and tell them we were sorry for what had happened to their family. The mother said, 'We're not angry at you; we are angry at the insurgents.' Her children were physically and emotionally scarred, but she still had the ability to love us." Padmore added that they came back one month later just to say hello, and have come back often ever since. He developed a special bond with the youngest daughter, 10-year-old Farah. Padmore said that after several months of frequent visits, both he and the child's mother expressed a desire to have him take Farah back to the U.S. as an adopted child with a brighter future in America. Though Farah agreed to this, Padmore remains uncertain as to the issues' legality, and whether this will someday be possible. "I'd like nothing more than to take her home to be a sister to my son. For the rest of my life, I'll never be able to forget her." Daily interaction with people such as this family has led Padmore to realize that, overall, Iraqis do not support the insurgency. "The people's belief system is not represented by the insurgency," he said. "There are lots of good people here who don't like the terrorists and want to work with us, even though many are afraid of the possible consequences for themselves and their families." "People back home often don't get a clear picture of what's really going on here. Often times, the simple stories, the most meaningful ones, go untold. It's in the journals, the letters, and the memories of the individual Marines, sailors and soldiers that you'll find them." For Padmore's team, the uphill battle to help rebuild Fallujah and foster understanding between two vastly different cultures continues. "The winning of hearts and minds is a key factor now, and missions like those we do here at the [Civil-Military Operations Center] will ultimately help us build better relations with the people," Padmore stated. "Winning the war means that children here have homes, education and clothing. Winning the war means that everybody ends up in a position that's beneficial for them in the end."
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