Thanks for the ping. This is an ongoing sore subject with me.
Pathological personalities don't necessarily believe in God. Lecturing them does no good. No contact is the only way to deal with them. I've often wondered if brain injury or early abuse produces these defects. Then there's the age old argument of nature vs nurture.
The person I've had the trouble with appears to believe in God (claims to) but in reality she is the most important person in her life to the point of abusing her children emotionally and verbally (not beating them, allows/encourages the step dad to over-punish them very harshly), and is cruelly selfish.
Very strange and disturbing family background as well. (freepmail follows)
The worst thing is not whatever harm she did to me (minimal - just layers of lies) but the harm done to the children is what breaks my heart.
:-(