You seem to be relying upon the assumption that Durant has addressed the issue of being raped ina book that he either has written, or is in the process of writing. If addressing the subject in a book would make the question fair game, then if Durant wrote a book and did not mention rape, would that then make the question inappropriate?
We're just going to have to respectfully disagree here. I don't believe that the child wanted to know so that he could make a decision about going into the military. Personal experience has taught me that such questions, asked in such a way, are a function of morbid curiosity, and fixation with the macabre, and nothing else.
Ya know, I just realized it was MS and not HS. Changes things a bit but should he be punished for asking?