I wasn't going to comment further on this thread because it's always a no-win proposition, but this statement reminded me of something I have always viewed as bizarre, but is never mentioned.
"Viewed as a sexual object long before..." etc.
instantly reminded me of the popularity of "cheerleaders", even at the lower school level. And we know what happens there as the age progresses. Most people think nothing of it and most families encourage it as a special achievment. I was totally relieved when my academically superior daughter never expressed the slightest interest.
I've mentioned it before,
but I strongly believe that sex is for adults, and there
need to be clear boundaries between child and adult
behaviors and endevours.
Yet some people blur the lines. Sometimes it's overt
and can be called abuse. But sometimes its covert and
subtle like what you mentioned.
(Like don't get me started on Little Miss Pageants!!!!)