Posted on 09/22/2005 5:48:16 PM PDT by wagglebee
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0670886106/qid=1127452619/sr=1-5/ref=sr_1_5/002-4240206-9281623?v=glance&s=books
Bronx or Brooklyn for school?
True but if you have lots of interactions, how will you guarantee that at least one of them won't mean lust of fornication?
BTW I haven't worked for sixty years but I have had 26 years of full time work history employment.
I'm right, your wrong.
Manhattan. I was born, raised, and lived in downtown nyc (Prince/W Broadway). I graduated from Regis High School.
And Augustine RULES! He gives hope for all natural lowlifes (like me) to strive to be better than what they are! ;-)
Because I love my husband.
END OF THREAD.
Jesuits on Prince and B'way?
Where you grew up doesn't exist anymore.
...A person can spend that added energy and deal with it & maybe it will work or maybe not, or they can cut their loss and cultivate a new relationship with a new person and not have to spend that extra energy
Thanks.
I don't know that I would assign precise numbers to the relationship maintenance effort, but your description of energy expenditure does provide an interesting perspective.
St Augustine should have studied his scriptures more..... 2 Corinthians 6:2 (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
I saw those same ratios for cheating spouses in the 60s. Also liked the line about more women entering the workforce. Has the author been asleep since 1955?
I'm curious now on this whole "lust" thing. Is there something going on in the heads of other guys that may not be going on in my head?
Figure I'm walking down the street Park Avenue and 55th (for example) and I see a good looking chick in tight pants. My thought: "Hey, nice butt!" And then I'm crossing the street and she's forgotten. What I mean to say, is that it doesn't send me into salivating out of control fit.
Maybe I'm missing something here with the whole lust thing.
You sound Muslim.
He also stole fruit. He's probably in hell now because he didn't lead a perfect life.
The fuzzy pic of the napkins I picked up from Google (no, you haven't had too much wine...yet!) is from garlicgal.com
"Is there something going on in the heads of other guys that may not be going on in my head?"
Or woman for that matter. I was basically told I wasn't normal because I love my husband and because of that love for him I don't lust which means I'm abnormal. Huh? Is there something I ain't gettin' either?
Finelli's (sp?) and M'Lady's are still down there. But the old Italian guys on lawn chairs smoking White Owl cigars are gone.
Well, not everybody reacts in exactly the same way. Plus, there was no real opportunity if this was just a chance momentary encounter on a street. Plus people's reaction ability changes with age and other factors.
The numbers are just for illustrative purposes to quantify it for purposes of the explanation. It's just shorthand for saying 'the normal, expected mental, emotional, physical, etc energy to sustain a relationship.'
It normal times and in normal relationships, if '5' is average, it fluctuates between a 4 and a 6 I would guess. When a couple has a serious fight or a bumpy time, it jumps to a 6+ or 7, for example, but that's not sustained in most cases and drops back down to normal levels.
Basically, for most people, working out the relationship after a sexual betrayal bumps the energy commitment higher along the scale and for a longer and more sustained time. In my book, it's just not worth it when you can get a new relationship with another person and avoid that added stress.
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