"Anyway, as I said before, it's the man's responsibility to make the first move - there's no need to wait for some sort of mostly invisible signal that she learned from last month's Cosmo."
Sorry, but I disagree with you on this. Roles and rules of dating are not what they were even 30 or more years ago in the US.
Do I like the current rules? No. But your skating uphill if you don't deal with it.
Today, its trainwreck. I consider myself pretty old-fashioned when it comes to things. My father was always teaching me about being a gentleman to women. He's a great guy. But most gentlemen are set up to fail in todays dating game. Many women simply take it as an insult or percieve it as a sign of weakness. Many women don't even take it as a compliment or respectfully decline your advance, they hit you with the "AS IF!!!" look and walk away.
Men appreciate women who do persuing as well, as being the persue(e). We aren't @#$@ing mind readers.
Agreed, mate. Nothing wrong with being asked out by an honest woman who is actually uninterested in mind-games and willing to spend a bit of quality time with someone they are genuinely interested in.