You are not the only one, mate. Some things it only takes the accusation to be made to ruin your name. Been there, had it done to Me, refuse to buy the t-shirt. Oddly enough, for the sex that is understood to be able to say 'no' they are strangely unable to accept when they are on the receiving end of it, no matter now innocuously put.
You have summed up, in pedestrian terms, my contention that "A husband cannot lead a wife that refuses to follow."