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An emotionally disturbed kid, dumped off on the school system. I'd bet her mom can't control her either, but it's not her problem while the school has her.

The school can't control her, and the police are afraid to go near her.

Wonderful. Just wonderful.

What's this kid going to be like in 10 years?

>>What's this kid going to be like in 10 years?<<

She'll be in an orange jump suit.

My guess would be that in 10 years this girl will be either dead or sitting in prison,probably convicted of first degree murder.

My wife has been a preschool director for 30 years. We have discussed her experiences on this forum a number of times over the last couple of years, but suffice it to say, she and the teachers can spot these kids when they enter the 18-month-old class. Actually, it's not the kid they spot, but rather the parent(s). Always trying to reason with the child, offering choices to the child, and then bribing the child when all else fails. She has a boy in a three-year-old class right now whose Mom is the church secretary. This kid has been trouble since day one and Mom and Dad seem completely perplexed. Oh, did I mention that they feel it's wrong to EVER spank a child. Sorry Charlie, after what I've seen her go through for 30 years I'm convinced there are simply some children for whom there is no alternative to corporal punishment. She is of the school of thought that, at least in the early years, it's not the severity of the punishment but the certainty of it that makes it effective. Every child has something he or she will consider bad enough to be avoided. For a two-year-old it's usually just a loud voice and firm slap on the rear end. They soon learn to weigh their actions with the likelihood of that surprise thump and decide it's better to avoid the thump. Every year you delay finding out what they fear enough to avoid is a year that effective control of the child's emotions, and behavior, gets more difficult. She finds it especially difficult with single-parent families. The mom, and it's usually the mom, is so busy trying to do the job of both parents that she is just to darn tired to exert the effort it takes to keep up with the behavioral problems of a two-year-old. Add to that the guilt she feels for being a single-parent family and the resulting fear that she will harm her child emotionally if she insists on good behavior and you have a kid that's in for trouble a lot of his/her life. It used to be mostly little boys, but now it's almost 50/50 and the parents have an even harder time coming down on a little girl when she has learned that she can do just about anything she wants and suffer no real discipline as a result. She had a three-year-old last year that was Shirley Temple look alike. Cutest little thing you can imagine. The problem was that she called the other kids names and her Mom just couldn't (wouldn't) believe she was doing it. The girl was standing by the gate one day at dismissal and hadn't noticed her Mom was right outside the fence, in easy ear shot. The little girl got mad a another little girl and called her a bitch, loud enough that Mom and everyone else heard it. End of problem!