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Posted on 09/06/2005 11:05:03 AM PDT by ExitPurgamentum
by Margaret Friedlander Brinig, Douglas Allen
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'These Boots are Made for Walking': Why Most Divorce Filers are Women
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Abstract: Because of the financial and social hardship faced after divorce, most people assume that generally husbands have instigated divorce since the introduction of no-fault divorce. Yet women file for divorce and are often the instigators of separation, despite a deep attachment to their children and the evidence that many divorces harm children. Furthermore, divorced women in large numbers reveal that they are happier than they were while married. They report relief and certainty that they were right in leaving their marriages. This fundamental puzzle suggests that the incentives to divorce require a reexamination, and that the forces affecting the net benefits from marriage may be quite complicated, and perhaps asymmetric between men and women. This paper considers women's filing as rational behavior, based on spouses' relative power in the marriage, their opportunities following divorce, and their anticipation of custody. |
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I disagree. It takes a hogpile of money to support a child. In Kullifonia, I pay $1650 a month for rent for a modest home. Food=$500 a month. She fosters dogs as part of her GS gold award=that's included. Utilities. SCE=$350 a month=all electric home=water heater, stove. Car Insurance = $145 a month. Gas $50 a month. Water/Sewage $75 per month (I get a discount because I share water/sewage with a commercial building). Ok, now, that's $2420. Girl Scouts $10, Karate $25, Guitar $50, Clothing (TEEN) $50, Medical insurance $514. Total now $ 3069. I make $53k a year. He pays me on the average $34 a month. Kiss my pink behind. He lives with a 30 year old woman and was fooling around during the marriage. Kiss it. He has no right whatsoever to ask me anything. Got a break this summer. SHE worked. HE didn't.
You are correct... there are two of us. :)
No problem. It's all good if the kids are ok and the republican wins.
Your kids have got a good Mom because you work your B!tt off for them! Not all men are like your ex........and I pray that you find someone special that will treat you special.
I hope you can find trust and love and respect.
KANSAS? Holy Creepos, I live in Kullifornia! Every guy I meet is full of complications or is gay. This is not good...........
Sweetie, that ain't the problem. Men are everywhere. I was responding to a hostile post. Read up.
LOL@ gay or complicated. So true, So true! Hence the reason I moved away from Cali. 10 years was enough.. Born and raised in the Midwest. Love it.
I have been told about a study that shows women resent having to work if their man can't support them. I would also say that the women who divorce aren't more likely to be working women because they can afford to, but having two people in the workplace doubles the chances of affairs and because it increases the resentment the woman has to the man. After all, if she can support herself and isn't staying home to be a good mother like she should if she has kids, what does she need the man for?
No ma'am, he was not fine at all. He had not scruple in him then and only showed that in full later.
You were not looking for scruples then, and it was THE REST of him that was fine. You've found what you'd been looking for. It is sad that even so many years later you still think that that his behavior was simply something that simply HAPPENNED to you. It did not.
Maybe I've misrepresented here. I have found many good men in my life. THAT ONE sucked. But I'm grateful that I have my daugher. And that she's smart enough to get over her father's shortcomings. Also, I see many children raised by fathers whose mothers have abandoned their children or given them nothing. It's a two way street. Someone on here posted a comment that kids without both parents suffer. Yeah, they do. The other parent has to be the hero. You have to bust your butt. You have to cover both bases. It ain't fair. But to broad brush women or men is just wrong. The fact of the matter is that parents are responsible for their children. And if one doesn't step up to the plate, monetary or emotionally, it's destructive. And, bring on the flames boys, it's usually the man that don't step up. The numbers don't lie. I couldn't care less that the father don't step up anymore. I do not, however, intend to put up with some bozo saying "women marry guys so they can have kids and a meal ticket" cuz the numbers are against them. Usually, and I'm talking 80%, the single mom struggles to support and the daddy runs.
No ma'am, he was not fine at all. He had not scruple in him then and only showed that in full later.
You were not looking for scruples then, and it was THE REST of him that was fine. You've found what you'd been looking for. It is sad that even so many years later you still think that that his behavior was simply something that simply HAPPENNED to you. It did not.
It seems there is no such thing as COMMITMENT any more. A good marriage requires commitment.
the esteemed surgeon general Dr. Elders once said over 90% of the folks in prison came from single parent homes.
Went to Mission Viejo High, lived in San Clemente for 3 years, Laguna Nigel and then the high desert. Everyone I met was superficial and didn't care about anyone but themselves.
10 years of that! Came back home to Chicago and haven't looked back since. No surf, but I have the lake shore drive. LOL
I knew of a guy who was making 1mil a year as a big time surgeon - and that was 10 years ago. He left his wife and kids and didn't want to pay child support so he to quit his job and went back to school to study theology.
the esteemed surgeon general Dr. Elders once said over 90% of the folks in prison came from single parent homes.
A good marriage requires two people who are committed to the same thing.
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