Marriage is a naturally polarizing process that causes one person to detest, over time, what the other person loves. Only after a couple divorces do they move back toward the center, where their interest in one another began.
People with strong sex drives tend to admire and marry people who basically disapprove of sex. People with low sex drives are intrigued by people with high sex drives. Sexual opposites attract and then go on to torment each other 'til murder or divorce, whichever comes first, do them part.
It looks like marriage -- for some people -- is a lot like politics. For them, it's politics a deux, a struggle of two egos for predominance, and economists or political scientists could do a lot with it, if they haven't already.
People with strong sex drives tend to admire and marry people who basically disapprove of sex. People with low sex drives are intrigued by people with high sex drives. Sexual opposites attract and then go on to torment each other 'til murder or divorce, whichever comes first, do them part. >>>>>>>>
Can't figure how she can generalize others by her own bad experience. I personally couldn't stand to be married to someone who was a polar opposite, especially on sexual terms. She is just projecting.
Haven't noticed that. My wife and I are alike on most levels. We like books (esp. SF/F), good food, travel and, *ahem!*. We're both conservative.
We differ slightly - my wife was far more independent than I - she ran off to see the world at 15(!), and has been a purple-haired "punk" type. Before she had kids, she could just dump everthing and go.
There are areas of stress, but I just do it her way, and that solves things, usually.