You have a lot of rules there. It must make life complicated.
I go by "what's good for the goose is good for the gander".
Well, my philosophy is that doing what works beats the heck out of doing any damn thing one pleases. You see, I'm interested in being happy, joyous, fulfilled. Not in winning, in beating anyone out, not in proving my sexual power to the world by hooking up with hot young studs, not in putting on a show of any sort. I have observed a lot of human nature, human behavior, and I read a tremendous amount of literature, which adds to my understanding of people. Pushing against human nature is a bad idea.
Women and men are DIFFERENT. The last 40 years of the so-called "sexual revolution" haven't changed that one iota, and my prediction is that it will never change.