I don't know if you're a Christian, but a Christian acquaitance of mine put it this way: In the end, the person you're hating will either be unrepentant and hellbound or they'll be saved and heavenbound. In the former case you wasted all you energy hating someone who will burn for eternity, and that may have happened to them partly because you hated them instead of trying to reach them with forgiveness. If the latter case is true and they're repentant, you hated a brother. In any case, you hated a person Jesus was tortured to death for."
It ain't worth it.
Thank you. I gave serious thought to heading straight to our pastors office yesterday to ask him how I'm supposed to not hate these people. Fortunately prayer worked. These people are wrong but families should put forth an effort to change things instead of focusing on the useful idiot.