Works both ways.
yes--this is true... but we women really do have a lot more power to take care of ourselves... unfortunately many of us are not making better choices... she's dead--he's not...
is it her fault that he killed her? no... but a different choice would "likely" mean that she'd still be alive...
a certain lifestyle doesn't guarantee that one live a long, happy, healthy life, but it can better one's chances...