I used to think the same thing.... then I looked at it from an evolutionary standpoint.
What do men want?
Now let's look at what women like:
I no longer fault women for looking for material success -- it's all about the evolution. I also ask not to be faulted for looking for a hotty. :o)
Now let's look at what women like:
Confidence -- Proven success in hunting and other things on the serengeti plain.
Kindness and Gentleness -- Won't kill you when he gets you into the cave.
Material Success -- Can bring home a woolly mammoth leg for you and the kids every now and again.
Prestige -- High order of power in the tribe, less likely to be expelled or stoned.
The first two I can see...
The third is a sorta if you don't have your own stuff and the last is a for sure NO in my book.
Ya know what the #1 thing on most women's list is (and it's not here)....
Loyalty. Total fidelity...someone you can trust with your life and won't betray you.
Times they are a changin' ;)
LOL. No judging here. Sadly genetics have denied some of us ladies some of those features. I am bereft of the first two on the list. I hope not to be faulted, as well! ;-)
Being a Christian, I have limited respect for the evolutionary standpoint -- or for the human nature argument. We're fallen creatures, and excusing bad behavior with "it's just nature" has never held sway with me. That something bad (whatever that something might be) is to some degree natural doesn't magically transform it into something good, or even neutral.
I also think that much of what both men and women consider attractive in the opposite sex is due to culture and habit. A look at different cultures in different time periods will show that. So even if you respect the "it's just nature" argument, you have to separate nature from culture.
From a woman's perspective (at least this woman's), there's a bit of a scam in the evolution/nature argument. Men get to pig out, let themselves go, and still they convince themselves that they are attractive to women. But a woman can't do the same thing because -- men declare -- she will be unattractive. It's called having your cake and eating it to.
And now I'm hungry.
Good attitude. I always hesitate to ask men what they "do" for fear of being seen as a golddigger, but I know the only reason they started talking to me in the first palce is because they like the way I look..... so now I'll ask away. It's fair.