I am so sorry for your loss, but I still disagree.
Disagree all you want, unless you have lost a child yourself, you don't know what you're talking about.
When you lose a child, you have a CHOICE: you can grovel it in to call attention to yourself, OR you can realize that you losing your mind will reflect poorly on the life of your child.
It's a CONSCIOUS choice people make.
We can all see the choice Cindy has made. This is about HER, not him. She LIKES being a grieving mother.
And I thank you for your thoughts, as I am sure you truly mean them. I'm not trying to be offensive about this, but I am one person, among many, on this forum who KNOWS what losing a child is like; this simply ain't it.