"...This isn't Brooklyn..."
That's really the problem
Too many "two-twelves" (212 - NY area code) new to Raleigh.
They're not in tune with the American culture.
Why should they be?
They're not American.
My wife and I are going to VA at the end of the month to see if its a viable move for us, we're from NY. From the looks of it, the slime that we're looking to leave behind is already there.
Thats a real bummer.