You're right. Alcoholics are selfish, and liars. unreliable, mean, I can use all the words.
But it is a disease. That's why I said earlier it's a family disease. You should have tried Ala-teen or Ala-non. It would have helped you deal with your anger and hatred and given you some peace.In Ala-non and Ala-Teen we learn to take care of ourselves and not dwell on the alcoholic. Learn some facts on alcoholism.
I am a grateful member of Ala-non and it literally saved my life and for sure saved my sanity.
With all due respect, lets agree to disagree. It's easier to be a drunk than to be sober. In some of my earlier responses, I was basically told to leave or that I was ignorant. What these "alcoholics" fail to understand is that they don't remember 3/4 or more of what they say or do while drunk... So i'm labled "ignorant" or in need of "help". It's much harder for the drunks family than it is for the drunk because we remember everything.
Then when they are sober and you tell them what they did, they deny it.
I do not dwell on the alcoholic. But when this "disease" thing comes up, I get quite mad. It would have done me no good to attend any of the alanon meetings because I would have been thrown out for telling them that they are FOS.
IMO, Alanon, alateen (or whatever) teaches lies. Drunks are told their disease is not their fault, etc etc. And their families are brain washed into believing the same.
Im glad it worked for you. Its alot easier for you to deal with drunks because you don't believe its their fault and if that works for you, then fine.
Ill stick to reality.