You don't know anything about alcoholism except your own hatred.
I pity you because like as not one or more of your kids will turn out to be alcoholics and there is nothing you can do about it but pray. I hope I am wrong, but I doubt it, you carry the gene for alcoholism and have passed it on to them. If they do are you going to blame them and be angry at them or will you seek to understand and help them?
I sympathize with your pain at being the adult child of an alcoholic, That is not your fault. But you can't blame your father for the way your life has turned out or the way you feel. You alone are responsible for that. I strongly reccommend that you seek help. Your life can be so much more without all of that hatred. I will pray for you.
first of all, everything I ever needed to know about drunks I learned in the first 20 years of my life. There is nothing "ignorant" about what I say.
Alcohol gene? BS. There are "alcoholics" in my family dating back to the early 1800's. I have no desire to get drunk. (I guess the gene skipped me)
Everything is a disease these days. Even heart burn (acid reflux) for God's sake.
Don't pity me. My kids will be fine. But, if they do make the choice to be drunks, its their own fault... NOT A GENE.
I will not dis-own my kids but I will not equate their drunkeness with that of a disease. Drinking is a choice, not a disease. I will show my kids what being a drunk can do to you and your family.. Both by words, and the physical scars I have acquired by living with a drunk.
My life is fine and I blame no one for the way it is. Thats a cop-out. If anything, my father has taught me how NOT to treat my kids.
You wanna know whats ironic? My father was a special agent for a Federal agency. He was a GS14. He made some of the biggest drug busts in the agency's history. He retired after 32 years. He was good... If you didn't know him, you would have never know he was drunk. He was nice to everybody... Until he came home. Many people would tell me he was a fine man... I would just laugh at them.
Bottom line is I DO NOT speak out of ignorance.
I do not wallow in self pity because there is none. I never lose my temper because I can control my emotions. But when this subject comes up, it brings out a part of me that not even my immediate family has seen.
That part of me is the reality of what living with a drunk can do to you.
To all you "alcoholics" out there, your habit effects EVERYBODY in your family. Not just yourself.