they are, and they are old enough to make their living preferences known, the a judge in the state of AZ, apparently is more powerful than God, and knows my children better than I do, and what's more, he's been abusive and the state custody evaluator doesn't care, nor the judge, even though the children have told about seeing their Dad hit me. Apparently it's better for an abusive Dad, any kind of Dad to have half time with the kids, unless of course he happens to be in jail. This way, the Dad's plead that they only have to pay half their child support, hence the kids have a hard time financially at one house and not at another. Such a pity. Because of this "parent at any cost" several children have been killed by "their loving parent".
Do your children have an attorney who represents soley their interests in this? Does Arizona statute allow for this and/ a Guardian Ad Litem?. You might want to look into this, as the judge does not seem to have the children's best interest at heart. If Az is similar to other states this has to be taken into account.
I can understand working on a marriage for certain issues, but for adultery and physical abuse? I just don't understand that
Best of luck to you and your children -