I say this with respect, we disagree. You made your arguments at a time when most of us were at a " fever pitch " to FIND Natalee. And, if you think that FR cant have an impact, when is the last time you saw Dan Rather? If the case went to court tomorrow, Joran would walk. I believe that will not ultimately happen. I believe some of the info. I have read here in this case just as I have believed some of the info on some other cases here at FR that ULTMATELY proved to be true in the past. It is easy to attack us. If you are as educated as you say you are, help us, help Beth. I believe the storys about Joran and his bad temper and I belive that he recently killed a dog.Surely a skilled and experienced therapist like yourself understands the significance of this kind of behavior. I suspect that Joran was also a bedwetter past the age of ten years of age. Like his bedwetting, his aggressive behavior,besides being impulsive and immature, is a cry for attention. ............. What say you?
I'd like to reply specifically to your challenges (you made several, so forgive me if this gets a little long):
if you think that FR cant have an impact, when is the last time you saw Dan Rather?...It is easy to attack us.
I'm not attacking FR at all. I love FR. And I do know that FR can make a difference in some cases. Certainly our Buckhead did so when he exposed the Dan Rather fabrications.
However, exposing the Dan Rather fraud was much different from trying to solve the mystery of a disappearing person from afar.
The evidence that Rather's documents were fabricated was easily discernable by someone with a little expertise in fonts (and the insight to look closely at them). The Rather document was a simple piece of "hard" evidence, posted on the internet for all to examine.
But we have almost no "hard" facts from Aruba. (Unless the blond-hair-on-duct-tape find, reported today, turns out to be hard evidence.) Almost all of what we've had, so far, is this miasma of conflicting reports, many of which have been proved wrong already; and a slew of anonymously posted internet rumors. To me, that stuff is garbage. Like I said earlier, I can imagine people who are resentful or envious of my son posting all kinds of garbage about him too, if he became a subject of notoriety.
If you are as educated as you say you are, help us, help Beth.
I think you may be confusing me with someone else here. I don't think I've ever said anything about my education. I HAVE said several times that I claim no special expertise (although I am an expert on teenaged boys, from being a mom to several of them!).
I DO want to help Beth. That's why I posted a couple of weeks ago that I thought it was a strategic mistake for her to call the Kalpoe boys "violent criminals" and to demand that no country allow them to "walk amongst their people." I think she realized that that was a mistake (but not because she saw my FR posts, LOL), and I'm glad she made the apology. I hope the Kalpoe boys will "turn" and help solve the mystery.
I also posted that I though it would help Beth if she considered trying other strategies beyond focusing so intensely on Joran and the Kalpoes (and maybe she has, but I haven't heard anything about it).
I believe the storys about Joran and his bad temper and I belive that he recently killed a dog.
If someone can post a named, accountable, first-hand source for the dog-killing story, then I'll take it seriously.
Teenaged boys having "bad tempers" -- kicking their younger brothers, getting into occasional shoving matches, etc., just does not seem like strong evidence of sociopathy or capability of committing murder, IMO.
Surely a skilled and experienced therapist like yourself understands the significance of this kind of behavior.
No expertise in therapy here! I'm just a mom of teenaged boys. One of my sons (the one I described above) can be impulsive and immature, and could maybe have been described as "aggressive" a couple of years back; but he's outgrowing it. And I don't think that behavior was a "cry for attention" -- IMO it was just the normal bumps in the road on the way to growing up, for a pretty typical teenaged boy.
As for the bedwetting story, I'd like to know where that came from, too.